You remember the day when you said “I do” like it was yesterday. The younger versions of yourselves so filled with promise and promises, but one of the facts of life is that you never fully understand what life has to offer and what awaits you.
There are many things in life that we think we can handle, or that we have no idea can be as hard as they are. In the end, however, what we learn is that without the bad, you can’t fully experience joy.
Caregiving for an ill spouse is one of the hardest things that anyone can go through.
Running the gamut of emotions, there are times when you will be frustrated, overworked and tired, but what there will also be are moments that will define not only who you are, but what your relationship is based on.
Who can’t do things that come naturally or easily? The real test of any person’s character or love is the challenges we face.
You likely have learned that many times along the years, but when things get stressful, we get scared, or when we become overwhelmed, that silver lining is more difficult to see.
Let people in
As much as you may feel alone at times, you aren’t. You have so many people in your life that are asking what they can do to help, or how they can lighten your load.
Now is the time to let them. You don’t have to be superman or superwoman. What you do have to do is recognize you are human and that to take care of anyone else, you need to be able to take care of yourself.
It won’t last forever
The only true thing in life is that nothing can last forever when it comes to both good and bad.
When you are in the thick of things, just remember that the sun will shine again, tomorrow is truly a new day and you are never alone.
Choose to reach out. You aren’t burdening people by taking them up on their offer. They offer because they care, they love you and at some point along the way, you will find a way to repay the kindness shown.
You aren’t in it alone, even if you are lonely
You don’t have the shoulder the burden alone. As it is true that it takes a village to raise a child, it also takes one to care for those who can no longer care for themselves.
Find humour in the seemingly unfunny, take note of the moments that no one else is privy to, and never stop believing that there are good things ahead.
There will always be brighter days ahead, sometimes you just have to make it over the peak to make it to the valley.